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The Real Orphan

The real orphan is unruly
 yet he thinks he acts coolly
He loves to rant and rave;
 is it attention he craves?

Who has produced one so errant?
 surely it is the hopeless parent!
The father too busy in the shop
 the mother buying another shapely top!
 
The parents cares for him not
 letting him to lie and rot
If one has to about him complain
 the parents says; ‘surely my angel isn’t to blame!’

To the parents I say; ‘if you leave the nanny to bring up your child,’
‘do you expect him to behave other than wild?’

Source: www.direct.za.org

10 Principles for the Upbringing of Children

1. Teach by example, because children listen with their eyes.
2. Introduce Allah to your child: His glory, obedience to Him over obedience to anyone else, asking only from Him, Importance of the Faraa’idh.

3. Introduce Rasoolullah (S) to your child: His life & times, following his Sunnah in everything in life, his Message, and his Work: Da’wah.

4. Systematic education of Islam parallel with regular education: 4-5 hours/week; Arabic language, Tajweed, Qira’ah ul-Qur’an, Aqeedah, Hadith, Fiqh, Seerah.

5. Manners: Akhlaaq. Attention to detail about all aspects of behavior reinforced by your own behavior. You have to practice what you preach.

6.Concern for others : Self centered: Family members, environment, servants, strangers, road users, neighbors, shop keepers: Sensitive or senseless?

7. Physical fitness: Mothers stop pampering. Regular sports, especially team sports, nutrition, no junk food.

8. Scheduling time: Wake & Sleep early, TV, Daily Muhasiba, diary writing.

9. Responsibility: School projects, commons, home, neighborhood,

10. Drive for excellence in everything: Being No.1. Winning is a habit. So is losing. Focus on quality. Be a Standard Bearer of Islam.

Source: At-Talib